I am a picker-and-chooser with my facebook friends newsfeed. Relationship status change or education/work info? I’m there! Status updates or new posted items? No thank you. However, one of my friends Lindsay McAfee posted a link on her facebook page that made me laugh out loud and cry a little inside. It’s from the ABA Journal website and not at all surprising.
All you need to know is the title: Women Lawyers Have Higher Divorce Rates, Need Loving Husbands, Researcher Says.
A researcher has found that young female lawyers and other women professionals have slightly higher divorce rates than their male counterparts….
Economist Sylvia Ann Hewlett, who conducted research on high-achieving women in 2001, theorizes that highly educated women have higher divorce rates than their male counterparts because they are attracted to successful men, and can’t give these men the care and support they need.
Hewlett has this advice for well-educated, high-earning women: Look for a husband who is particularly loving and supportive.
What do you think: too obvious to even be worthy of an article on the ABA? Is it earth-shattering that ladies need loving husbands? Does it even matter now that the national average is so high?
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What kind of advice is that??
“Look for a husband who is particularly loving and supportive.”
What does that even mean? I might stick to searching for a husband who is mostly jerky, selfish, and wants to keep me locked in the kitchen, barefoot and pregnant.
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The messages of this article should be applied to both professional men and women equally.
Fifty years ago the great majority “Successful Couples” involved a hard working man with a hard working woman behind the family structure they created. In modern times, there may not be a whole lot different in the partners’ personalities (ambitious women are still attracted to ambitious men) but in the physical reality there is a stark difference - the fact that now the hard working women are not focusing their efforts on the family structure.
It would be nice to say that all men are realizing the ambitions of modern day women and are making strides to meet their partners half way and do the hard work that a good relationship and family needs to persist through the challenges of life. However this is just not true. Therefore many “Successful Couple” relationships are failing because of a general neglect of the upkeep that any relationship/family structure demands.
Is this too obvious of a phenomenon to require an article on the ABA? Absolutely not, just like ambitious men, ambitious women have half the responsibility of the modern marriage and many of them thinking only of their professional ambitions need to be reminded (just like men do) that successful relationships (just like successful careers) need hard work and attention.
Is it earth-shattering that ladies need loving husbands? No, but ambitious young women thinking of marriage most definitely need a loving man to meet them halfway, and this article seems to be giving them a signal of what might happen (and what has happened to their peers) if they don’t proceed into a “Successful Couple” marriage carefully.
You might find this interesting:
http://ms-jd.org/being-somebodys-spouse-full-time-job